What were and are the most difficult factors to balance?
Pamini: Currently, I have accepted transfer to Abu Dhabi, which is at a one-hour drive from Dubai where Saravanan works. This makes it a bit difficult for us to spend quality time together as a family with our daughter. As ambitious working parents, we do have to work hard on taking quality time off for family. Our recent fiveday trip to Singapore was planned and executed well and gave us refreshing time off. Such time off must be taken with family to get rejuvenated.
Saravanan: Being away from the family sometimes makes it difficult to adjust. But, I ensure to spend at least two days in a week with them. Life always comes up with such difficulties. I stay positive and give moral support to my family all the time and contribute my share with my wife in having a trouble-free family life.
Most of the stress is handled superbly by my wife in looking after her career, our daughter and parents at home. She barely makes me realise what she undergoes which also make me appreciate her even more. I contribute my bit to ensure everything gets well balanced.
I would do it too, as we both have managed to create an inspiration to many people who do look up to us and wonder how we manage successful careers and family life all together. In fact our parents have come up to appreciate our lives and are open to love marriages. They now share our story with their friends and are helping many parents to be convinced with their children’s love story.
– Saravanan
What support did you receive from your spouse in continuing to work?
Pamini: Unconditional trust and freedom given by my spouse is something I value so much. I haven’t changed post marriage at all on the contrary I have grown to be more confidant and successful hotelier and the entire credit of it goes to my husband for never treating me just a wife but allowing me to enjoy life just as much as he does.
Saravanan: Our story has become an inspiration for many around us, as we both complement one another not just in our personal life but also in our professional life too.
I am also a bit spoiled as my wife takes a lot of interest in planning vacations and surprising me every time, giving me lots of gifts, sending me romantic messages and making me realise that my family will always be there for me. Our villa in Visakhapatnam is completely getting designed by her. Listening to your partner can solve lot of problems and husbands must take time off for their wives to strike a balance as man and women are two different beings and one cannot be replaced by one another instead both needs each another for their existence.
[box type=”shadow” ]Most of my friends complain about their wives. It could probably be because of their career differences! Having a wife from the same career field has nurtured my professional and personal life beautifully.[/box]
Were there any working idiosyncrasies that became annoying at home?
Pamini: I am a shopaholic and my husband is the other way around like most of the husbands. I have 44 pairs of shoes hanging on the wall as we have run out of space at the ground.
Saravanan: My wife is vegetarian so she constantly tells me to have two different sets of vessels at home for cooking, as I am non-vegetarian. In our house, we do have towels in the bathroom folded with tags inside as it happens in most of the hotels.
We do have TV always being put back on channel 1 before shutting off, I guess my wife probably is getting out of this habit gradually, having beds made according to hotel standards is something my wife is passionate about so we always have runners, bolsters and sheets matching the interiors.
